Girls/women/ladies- as this transition happens- the more she turns out to be the butterfly- the more she is metamorphosing- there is something the world doesn't see of - that she is shutting away ... Loosing out... They might call it growing up... Maturing / adjusting / compromising or " being ACCOMMODATIVE" but what she is taking up unquestioningly is that hiding shunning and loosing... The world sees the lady... Polite,elegant,poise,reserved homely the MRS./ the-know-it-all mom or the Boss but what we hardly notice is the girl that had wild dreams is now run over , the identity altered... The loud fun and mirth toned down in to smiles and minimal talks...is that being mature and lady like??
Hoo yeah there is an alternative be the girl u were and be called the wild cat and some times even immature... hoo sorry there is a easy way to pick - if u are successful u are the wild cat...the strong one... The independent ; if not u never grew up only... But trust me nobody most of the time u- urself wouldn't question-what u ever wanted and what u have now was what u ever wanted... I know nobody- has the run down life,not in whole... But there are pieces of each of us that has been run down or given up by ambition /by society /by the people we prioritise or by our materialistic priorities and then one day when past visits us - the unassuming college yrs or frnds , then, those old dreams / wanted to dos and be s also visit and the comparison of the now and then wouldn't always be a happy thing u see...
Learning takes away a lot of raw knowledge and happiness... it teaches u the ways of world that's not always as fresh and raw but it's used, tampered, tested and old nothing like what u would have been - if let be ...
But then u stay to be u the core raw u. The unassuming free bird happy one... Hoo pls they cannot accept u that way... Cause it's not lady like u know !!
Initially u are born... And then taught ... In the process of learning and growing you are formed and u learn independence... living and start to free fly then u are weighed down by what they call norms culture custom relationships and responsibilities and duties... Now u metamorphose and learn to unlearn a lot of things that contributed in making u and u believed in... Shun few, shut off a few, hide a few , forget some and grow up to be acceptable and successful... Now that's called growing up... And all goes rite - u are an achiever but those lil things that u wanted to do - then when U are big and capable are now shots of embarrassment or if u pick to do them- u see- u aren't mature or it's not too grown up like or u are risking it on whole...
But if u could just be what is expected of u... OMG BLING BLING u are just the best !!! All that everybody wants to be... But tell me who are u ? Is that what u wanted to be ?
Has anybody ever lived their life their way to the fullest 24/7
Y is it such a hard thing? No we aren't asking to take away somebodies lives... All we might ask for is to be me / be us not somebody else... Just live life the way the individual picks for itself... it's no violation of love nor any person or norm !!
Hope one day the world understands - inside every grown up stays a lil one that's much pure than the one u see and some day gets to cherish it !!! And the world hails a happy place !!!
PS: may be an irrelevant story to u but might be pretty relevant to few around